Positive Parenting With Personality Types
When you know the personality types of your children, you can create the best parenting tools made just for your children.
If you are struggling with the behavior of your child, at any age, learning what his or her personality types are will help you unlock the reasons for their behavior. With the keys to your child’s personality, you can develop a personalized plan to speed through issues and transform your relationship to that of cooperation and kindness.
Not all of us are born with the same personalities, so one parenting technique can’t possibly fit everyone. A child’s individual disposition and personality traits play an enormous role in their life. Our parenting tools need to take that into account.
Using a cookie-cutter technique might help some kids perfectly, but it won’t help all of them. Parents often spend a lot of energy instituting well-meaning advice, only to feel like they’ve failed because it didn’t work. Perhaps it didn’t work because your child has a certain need that a general tool doesn’t address.
If you’ve read all the parenting books, taken all the courses, and still you struggle to bring harmony into your home, perhaps there is an important element that your child has been trying to show you all along.
It’s time to parent according to the individual person, instead of a using one-size-fit-all solution.
Experts often say that a child who’s acting up ”just wants attention,” but what kind of attention? And why does he need so much? They claim that he just wants more control, but control over what? What if you knew, that every time your child acted out there was a reason for it, and not just because they want control or attention?
For example, most of us think a child who is very bossy just wants control. Often parents are told to give him more responsibility like cleaning something not normally in his routine. Then the child refuses to do it, and another power struggle ensues. But if the child has a King type, it may be more effective to give him a job that helps him feel like a leader of other people. Helping out a sibling with homework would be far more satisfying and rewarding for him.
If a child is constantly asking for more and more attention, she may have a Diva type, and getting her in front of an audience now and again will help satisfy her need for the spotlight. If he’s acting up in school making jokes at inappropriate times he may have the Clown type. The child with the Clown type is actually using humor to point out injustices. A parent that knows this will be a good listener first, and make sure he feels heard before responding to his classroom antics.
Some girls ask for gifts and presents constantly. Parents may feel as though they have spoiled her. But it may be that she has a Princess type, and when she receives a gift she feels loved. What parents can learn is that it’s also true that a Princess type feels love when she’s giving gifts as well. So it may be wise to have her create a gift for a grandparent or friend.
Children have signals and patterns that define what makes them different from other people. When we learn what our children’s patterns are, we can address their needs more accurately. Once a parent can see the true nature of their child, in good times and bad, we can’t help but feel excitement and joy when we are with them. Even the bad times will be less of a challenge and more like a puzzle, where we put the pieces where they belong.
My name is Selah Cambias and I have developed a system to understanding the real meaning behind children’s behavior, and what can be done about it if it’s challenging.
Family Types™ is a system based on learning your child’s personality types and responding to them specifically. The system takes you through 59 types so you can find the handful that your child was born with. Once you know your child’s types, the system walks you through creating a personalized response to your child.
This system is so effective it will change the way you see your child forever. You will be able to see what they really need instantly. This system is tailor-made to your child, and the responses you help create are tailored to you, the parent.
To learn more about Family Types, you can:
1) Sign up for a FREE one-hour session with me. I will help you find three of your child’s types and create an action plan made just for you. Just click the calendar on the right and pick a date. Genbook will walk you through the rest.
2) Sign up for my FREE e-course that takes you through 6 of the most common types. Just type in your name and email address at the right.
3) Check out the list of Personality Types in the tab above and the Sample Chart created for 10-year-old Max. You can see how a child-specific technique can be more effective.
4) Follow me on facebook and twitter so I can share with you the different types and help you find the ones in your family. You’ll also be the first to find out about my new upcoming book Family Types: Better Parenting with Personality Types due out February 2013.
As a parent I want you to feel the joy and peace I felt when I unlocked the secrets of my children’s types. Over the years I’ve seen so many parents light up with “A-HA!” and “Oh, that makes so much sense!” They could finally address what was really going on. The hardest part of parenting can become like a treasure hunt, where no matter the behavior, you find the silver and gold that makes your child special and makes parenting the most rewarding experience.
- Enjoy the best traits of your children more often
- Instantly know what your child needs when they are “acting out”
- Speak your child’s language while staying true to yourself as a parent
- Recognize more of the gifts that your children bring into this life
- Feel more harmony between family members
- Empower yourself to create a peaceful and loving family
This will make you a better parent, but mostly it will make you a happier parent.
I can’t wait to meet you.